"Why would they compliment I, if clearly thy am not worthy of praise?"
Why is it that our minds don't respond well with compliments, we deny them, say it isn't true.
Some call it modesty, but I, you ask?
I call it self doubt. Lack of self confidence.
But when another points out our flaws, we are deeply scarred.
But why I ask, if one is so much more positive than the other?
Isn't it better to be positive, to be optimistic and look at the world with a smiling face?
Yes! Of course! But it's also harder.
Why would we try hard to believe that something is good about ourselves when instead we can agree with the dark voices in our head?
Why is it that when a close friend compliments you it has a weaker effect on you then a stranger critiquing you?
Is it because you think your friend is lying? But your friend wouldn't lie! Is it because you are self-doubting yourself?
You don't think your pretty, but your friend does. This other person says you aren't pretty. And you break down because you think this person is right. But your friend said you were pretty.
Your friend knows you better than that stranger. He or she has been with you so much longer. Knows so much more.
So why can't we, as humans listen to these compliments, be them from close friends or strangers?
I think it has to do with the voices in our head, the monsters under our beds. Our self doubt lurking behind us.
"How could I, a corrupted soul possibly be a good friend, a star athlete, a smart student or beautiful?"
How could you? By believing in yourself and those compliments. People don't just hand out compliments for the heck of it. They mean those words! Just think, honestly, how hard is it for you to give someone a compliment? Even a friend? What about someone of the opposite gender? It's difficult for most.
So when someone gives you a compliment listen up. They aren't lying. Push back those voices, let the compliment kill off some of the monsters.
The only thing holding you back from achieving your greatness and fate is yourself. And if you say you can't, or if you don't have time to put all this effort into changing your mindset, you're lying. There's a difference between not having time and choosing not to do it. So what are you waiting for? Achieve your greatness!
Remember from my Mission Statement that Christopher Columbus quote? If not, go read that post.
I'm glad I finally got some post out. It makes me happy to write about these. Let out my inner writer and poet.
Anyway, stay strong. You're beautiful, everyone that's reading this.
Ahh leave a comment on here. Even if you email me or chat me that you liked my blog post, I would really like some feedback on here!! But I guess any feedback is better than none ehehe. >w<
- Holli
